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Starting at the End

"The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or determined to carry out their dream." - Les Brown


Pregame Prep (today's overview)

There are many great coaches and leaders who discuss legacy, death, your eulogy and your tombstone. This is for a good reason, there is power in planning what you truly want to do with the time you have here. This isn't going to be a depressing discussion, but it is going to focus on the end of your human journey on this Earth. You owe this to yourself!

Successful coaches focus on legacy, if you know what your heart and soul desires it's easier to ensure you have the correct offense and defense on the playing field of life. Everyone's game of life is going to permanently end and you don’t want potential left on your tombstone. Your last breath shouldn't be filled with "should've" or "why didn't I". You don't see millionaire/billionaire as one of the words etched on someone's tombstone. If you know what you want your legacy to be todays play calling is much easier, you know which plays and formations to avoid and ignore and you will focus more on that championship drive. After all, if you have the best running back in the league are you going to throw passes to a receiver who can't catch play after play?


If God forbid you passed today, what does your tombstone say, what is in your eulogy?


Film Review (my experience)

I remember clearly the first time I was asked to write my eulogy, I was on an island with a group of people learning about abundance. My first thought was where is the abundance of thinking about death? I'm looking for the code to make money fall from the sky like rain and we are thinking about our eulogy? (My views on true abundance at the time were way off)

The first time I wrote my eulogy with ideas and statements that I thought other people wanted to hear I figured we were going to share our eulogy out loud to a group of strangers: fear of judgment combined with my ego said this needs to have these lofty proclamations because I think that's what people want to hear.

I've re-written my eulogy several times since this first exercise on a private island. Thinking about the end is a great way to find your focus and get your priorities in order. I learned to not focus on the how, not focus on what other people think and write from your heart. If you feel it, your write it, read it again occasionally share it with others and make appropriate edits.

Knowing what I truly want my legacy to be makes it far easier to decide what to focus on. I do not have to spend my energy, my time on projects and activities that do not align with my game plan.

The more you focus on your goals and on your true purpose: the mind and the universe have this way of making things work. As I write this article today many parts of what I wrote on that private island are coming true, many sentences of my Eulogy already happened. I didn't worry about the how, I didn't think about the small details... All of that worked out on its own. I thought many of my 'goals' were too big, only to realize I've been playing too small.

Offensive Game Plan (actions to obtain freedom)

Write your Eulogy, its fine if you don't have all the details, it doesn't matter what anyone else says. This is an exercise for you. This will help change your life in ways you may not realize. We will discuss this more in upcoming posts!

I wrote a course on how to write your eulogy, I shared tips and strategies I've learned from mentors, my own experience, as well as other students.

Defensive Game Plan (actions to defend your freedom)

Do you have a will/a universal healthcare directive/power of attorney?

Protip: setup a revocable trust for your assets

Audible: (unplanned changes to the plan)

Review your eulogy regularly do not second guess or be afraid if you change your plan. If the universe gives you a trick play or you get sacked by the largest defensive player you have ever seen just get right back up and call your next play!

Post-Game Review (key takeaway)

Start at the end with a general idea of what your eulogy and tombstone will say, work backwards adding more focus, more details and more actionable steps and you have started your first step to freedom through purpose!

Hey Coach! (Connect with me)

Email me your eulogy, do you have questions, do you need help? I am here for you!

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